Hello to the new….

      

I was going to say hello to the new week, but as I am attempting to live in the moment, let’s just start with “Hello, Monday!” A friend and I were talking this morning and it occurred to us that we are really good at offering each other words of encouragement and support for how to just live life. What we also noticed is we are not so quick to understand the need to take our own advice. She affectionately coined us “WIPs”, (Works in Progress). It’s a very true statement, as we are all works in progress no matter what we are working on there is always something to be gained. The experience alone of whatever is happening in your life the gain right there, you learned that what you did worked well enough to repeat again or that next time you will go a different way. Sometimes it can be very hard to live in the moment; you get to this point in life where you have conquered enough of the stuff you were trying to work on, feeling at peace with it enough to now lend your attention to another area. The problem is because we have had this enlightening “ahhhh” moment in one area now we are on a roll to make sure the next area does the same, only we want it to happen in 15.5 seconds from the moment we fixated ourselves on its possibility. We briefly forgot that it took some time to develop the success we achieved in that other area.

How come the journey is never enough? One of my BFFs is graduating from college this weekend and she, like most I know including me, did not take the path that includes college right after high school. So we are among the Adult students that are blazing across the world, furthering or continuing their education. She is so excited to finally be done with this leg of the tour but of course it came with many conversations about, “I should’ve done this a long time ago, if I would’ve gone after high school I would be done by now, etc.” Being in the same boat as she is I definitely understood, but I told her like I tell myself whenever that thought would enter my mind, it happened this way for a reason. And as I made her graduation card, I found myself personalizing it with the words “the length of this journey doesn’t matter, it only matters that you reached your destination.” Then I thought to myself, wow I’m good. J I’m either good at remembering this quote from something else I read, or I was just that profound this morning to really think of that on my own! LOL Either way, I thought to myself, why is it that we are not happy going through the journey? We are always so disappointed at the circumstances happening before we finally get what we want; instead of understanding the process is just as important as the result. I am most certainly, a victim of this too so I am not pointing the finger here but I think it is important for us to understand that it’s not a bad thing to have to wait, if we convince ourselves that the thing we are seeking to gain is indeed possible for us to have, why can’t we just relax in knowing that it will happen? Where is the fire? If we don’t live in the present and just enjoy it, day by day. When all is said and done we are going to wake up and wonder where the time went, I am already trying to figure out where the first 5 1/2 months of this year went!  3 months ago I was unemployed and on a serious grind to find a job, now look at me up at 5:30 a.m. every day, working at a job where I am busy from the time I walk in until the time I leave. While I was in that journey I thought it was the worst time for me. But it amazingly enough proved to be the most enlightening thought-provoking growth spurt I could have ever had, thus far! J

So in conclusion, sit down and relax. No matter what is happening in the moment I truly believe, it’s all good!